During the season of Winter 2014, I began having a series of dreams. These dreams were repetitive, vivid, and felt urgent and very real. They had themes of a child being lost and found and hiding a big secret. They were unlike any I have ever had before or since, in that they seemed to begin from within my womb-space, and the openings continued during meditation.
When I think back over these last few years, about what really made a difference in my own life, in fulfilling my own Soul hunger for more love, joy, fulfillment and freedom, and moving forward with the highest-level transformational and spiritual healing work I am passionate about doing, the dreams I had that winter were clearly the turning point . They opened the door to healing the one thing that got me moving after being stopped by fear. Healing this one thing changed everything for me.
This healing was the deep healing and release of my adoption trauma, the heart of my own Mother Wound.
I have been on a path of personal growth that has included healing, all of my adult life. I had addressed my own adoption-related life experiences in the past, first through conventional counseling, and then several years ago, through a deeper passage with some of the early Energy Psychology resources I use. Both times, I benefited. But I still had fears, and some primary patterns that kept me afraid to fully claim my own joy, and my full purpose, mission and message with confidence and boldness. These old lingering adoption-related wounds from my Mother Wound were still keeping me afraid to be seen, afraid to fully be myself, and claim all of my gifts and become visible with the fullness of what I am called to do in this life – the fullness of my highest-level work in the world .
Healing Core Wounds Changes Everything
Those lingering fears and wounds were what were healed and released with the deeper healing of my adoption. It began spontaneously with the dreams and meditations, which included body memories of my time before birth, birth, and earliest childhood. Through the memories that opened from my body, my birth story became known to me. This was an amazing experience because all the people in my life who had told me the story differently in the past, had passed long ago, and what I was told had never resonated with me; I never felt that the story as it was related by family members, was really true. There were too many unanswered questions, and too many unexplained coincidences in the old story. But the memories that unfolded from within me made deep sense and explained all the unanswered questions and coincidences.
The healing that changed everything for me, was not only the revealing of the real story of my adoption, it was that through this revealing, the way to heal this central part of the Mother Wound was also made known, and came to fruition. This healing came about because I went to the core of the story and the core of the wound, and found where it originated, and the core of the emotional, mental and other imprints from the adoption that were imprinted in me, during my earliest time prenatally, and my first days and few months of life. The healing was far more than the finding and understanding of these imprints on a cognitive or intellectual level; it included healing and releasing them from my physical, mental, emotional, and intuitive-spiritual matrix deep within myself. And the healing also included the essential healing and repatterning of this same inner matrix in some of the sweetest, most joyful experiences of deep healing I have every been a part of, in over 30 years of facilitating deep healing work.
Healing The Mother Wound Begins with Healing Trauma & Goes Beyond
As I have thought about sharing this story and how to describe the experience, it’s clear that this was much more than “inner child work”, or healing from childhood trauma limited to this life. This deep and complete healing of the Mother Wound of my adoption included healing past-life trauma, healing generational trauma, and healing my family constellation back 6 generations. It included opening the pathway to healing my own family going forward in time, so that my children and grandchildren do not need to carry the burden and impact of this unhealed generational Mother Wound trauma themselves. It included healing and restoring to right relationship the relationships I have with my birth parents, and strengthening my relationships with my adoptive parents and family. It included strengthening the security of the emotional, mental and spiritual bonds of belonging and attachment with my husband and our children and grandchildren in this lifetime.
Most profoundly, this deep, complete healing of the Mother Wound of my adoption forever transformed and healed my inner sense of myself and my identity – my felt sense and confidence of my own worthiness, deservingness of good things and success, of belonging, of how much I am deeply loved, and how important I am to life, to my family, and to the world, and how crucial and essential it is that I complete my own Great Work in the world. And it gave me a felt sense of how much confidence the Divine has in me.
The healing of my adoption Mother Wound began with emotional and mental healing. It included psychological and relational healing. Much of the “how” of the healing was through Energy Psychology. And this healing was also so much more. Ultimately it was spiritual healing. Though I did not consciously know I needed it at the time, my Soul did, and this spiritual healing changed everything for me.
In my case, it opened the door to two more passages of deep healing; the first was the complete healing of my body from a significant major illness. The second was the spiritual, mental, emotional and psychological healing of religious trauma, and freedom from the traumatic impact of joining a harmful, high demand, totalist group as a young adult. Both of these were crucial for me to be empowered and prepared to fulfill my own highest-level work in the world.
The healing that changed everything for me, was gained from healing my Mother Wound. It included the spiritual healing that empowered me to return to mySelf, reclaim my own Sovereign Feminine Soul and Feminine Spiritual Power and gave me the foundation of confidence and belief in myself, to fulfill the highest-level work I am here to do, in this stage of my life.
What Do You Hunger For this Year?
Is there something you deeply want this year? Do you feel a deep hunger and restlessness, a discontent and awareness in your body that you are born for more? That you are here to do something in some way bigger? And that you are meant to become someone bigger?
If you do, and if you feel held back from actually realizing what you deeply Desire, then you may be on the thresh-hold of a similar healing. That “thing” that holds you back from fulfilling your dreams, can finally be healed, released and transformed. The necessary deep healing is available for you now.
If this resonates and you feel an inner recognition of your Soul calling you across a thresh-hold you’ve been unable to cross until now, so you can achieve your new dreams, and you would like to learn how I can guide and support you on your Journey, I invite you to learn about Freeing the Heroine Within.
Freeing the Heroine Within is my Heroine’s Journey Healing Program guiding you to heal your inner child. It begins with Healing Your Heart, Healing Your Mother Wound, my unique program to guide you through your own deep healing of your Mother Wound that will change everything. You too, can experience your own very personalized transformation and metamorphosis, so you can fill the hunger your heart feels from your needs that were not met, and the love you didn’t receive as a child. This is the love that is the foundation for all the other joys, fulfillment and freedom your Souls seeks. Experiencing the love your inner child has missed, will transform everything for you, and open the path to fulfilling all your other heart’s Desires and joys, including creating Soul-satisfying love and deepened partnership in your marriage, becoming your Highest Self, fulfilling your Soul’s highest calling and achieving your new dreams.
Healing your heart, healing your Mother Wound, and healing your inner child is the healing that changes everything. The love that healing your Mother Wound opens for you to experience, is the love your heart has hungered for your entire life.
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Debra Brown Gordy, MS MRET is a women’s trauma and relationship healing therapist, spiritual mentor, inspiring speaker and teacher, whose work sits at the interface of depth healing, women’s spirituality, and Western wisdom traditions.
From her professional beginning as a marriage and family therapist over 3 decades ago to the present, Debra has found that a woman’s Heroine’s Journey to her True Self to be the path of greatest joy, fulfillment, soul-satisfying love, and highest-level contribution. She is passionate about guiding ambitious, accomplished women through their Heroine’s Journeys of the inner healing of trauma and the Mother Wound, blocking them from the fulfillment they hunger for, to transformation and reclaiming their Sovereign Feminine Souls. Women become free to create the deeply joyful, rich, and meaningful lives and marriages they Desire, while making the highest, Soul-level contributions they are uniquely meant to give the world.
Debra is the founder of The Sophia Women’s Institute and works with clients worldwide.
To learn more, visit The Sophia Women’s Institute.
