Why Can't I Get Over Him? (and Get On with My Life)

Shelley* is seeing Dan (again). She has been with Dan for most of the last seventeen years; in fact, Shelley has been married to Dan twice in that time, and both times, it was a disaster.  Both times, she got out, and yet Shelley continues to return to Dan, even though she knows what a mistake it is.  It’s almost as if she can’t help it; Shelley says that she feels as if she is a bird mesmerized by her reflection in the glass, and she continues being drawn back to him  even though she knows disaster is looming ahead, and even though she hates it.     

What is going on?  Why can't Shelley get over Dan?

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Creating the Foundation for Lasting Love In Your Marriage

Do you remember your wedding day?   If you are not married, can you envision it?  Most women will answer with a fond yes, and think back or envision all the special memories of their special day.  Details large and small instantly come flooding back ~ the special looks, the first kiss after the ceremony, the toasts at the reception, the special moments with your mom or dad, other dear family members or good friends sometime during the day, the funny moments that just the two of you shared.  Do you remember?   If you are like most women whom I have asked this question, you remember so many of the details, perhaps as if in slow motion.  It is etched forever in your memory, and colored by the color of your love.

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