The Return of the Light: Beginning (or Continuing) Healing Your Mother Wound Well

Attuning to the Wheel of the Year is a beautiful, natural way to live in sync and harmony with nature’s rhythms, and to draw down the seasonal energies that are meant to support you in living well through out your life. There are seasons in the annual turning of the Wheel that are especially potent for new beginnings, especially when you hunger for healing and renewal.

Imbolc is one of those seasons. As winter is beginning to end, and the earliest signs of spring are beginning to show, we can use this season prior to the Spring Equinox for self-reflection and preparation, to begin a season of healing your Mother Wound, well.

Learn about this time-honored season, and how you can use it well. Learn also about the Celtic goddess who can be a powerful archetypal source of inspiration, support and strength, championing you on, on your Heroine’s Journey.

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How to Heal Your Heart of Your Mother Wound

Part II in the Healing Your Mother Wound Series.

The Mother Wound is an injury and sorrow perhaps unlike any other.  It’s private and deep; many women describe it as an emptiness and aching in their heart they have felt their entire lives.  It’s an injury that hurts like complicated grief that comes from carrying an unknown, hidden burden all by yourself.  It’s been described as yearning for a “certain quality of love – a nurturing, safe inspiring love – the kind of love we think of as maternal love.”1   

It’s an unconditional love that no friendship, romantic love or other kind of love can replace.

Healing your Mother Wound is the qualitative healing that many women seek to experience for years, even decades, even without knowing what it is that they need. All other personal and relationship healing and growth ties into this healing of our hearts, leading us to finally be prepared for it, often in our mid to late forties and beyond.

I’ve taught for years, that healing your inner child will transform your life in all areas of your life. Healing your Mother Wound is the crucial heart of this healing for countless numbers of women. This post introduces my holistic, depth-healing approach to healing your Mother Wound.

Healing your heart of this injury is the most deeply liberating and joy-filling personal work you may ever achieve in your life. It will transform your life, and transform your relationships with your spouse, children and grandchildren, and ultimately transform the legacy of your Mother Line.

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Healing The Mother Wound, Healing Your Heart: What is the Mother Wound?

Welcome Spring!  The Vernal Equinox is coming - a new season of renewal and rebirth - a new season to birth our deepest Desires into reality.  For many women, one of our deepest, heart-felt desires we hunger to fill, is to have a joyful, loving, secure relationship with our mothers, yet many of us don't.  This is a heart-ache like no other that many, many women experience.     

The deep hunger for a mother's love, that many women did not receive as children, lingers on into our adult lives.  This loss of a mother's nurturance, protection and guidance when a child is young is termed The Mother Wound.  For many, many deep reasons, 2023 is the year of healing the Mother Wound.  Though the term has been used for a while, many women  don't know what the Mother Wound is, how it happens, or how common this injury is, or have a picture of what it looks like for adult women who have experienced this significant childhood injury that often has it's origin in earlier generations of our families

This post introduces the Mother Wound, and answers these questions:

  • What is the Mother Wound?

  • What does it look like?

  • How does it happen between mothers and daughters?

  • Is it possible to heal it?   YES!

This post illustrates the Mother Wound by sharing the beginning of the story of two women, a mother and her daughter, whose lives have been deeply impacted by the Mother Wound. This is a portrait of what it has looked like between them, and how it began. And this is the story of the deepening of the healing of their relationship, because one of them finally comprehended the nature of this deeply painful invisible injury to their mother-daughter bond, beginning generations ago.

The Mother Wound is the relationship trauma hidden in plain sight, and it's impact in our adult lives can be profound.  From our personal lives, our inner feelings about ourselves, our closest relationships, including our marriages, the way we mother, the way we presence ourselves in our work and social interactions,  the friends we choose, the Mother Wound goes with us, and is passed to future generations - until women like those in this post, step up to heal it in their own lives, and be instrumental in healing and releasing it in their relationships with their children.  Through this year, we'll delve deeper into all these ways that the Mother Wound impacts our adult lives as women, our marriages, our relationships with other women, and touch on how the Mother Wound affects men.

Experiencing the Mother Wound is no one's fault. We as women - mothers and daughters - are not to blame for this injury, which goes back thousands of years in our generational lines.  It's a generational childhood trauma whose origin comes from many sources. 

The time for healing it and freeing ourselves, our daughters and future generations, is ours, in the time in which we live, and we have profound support this year in healing this generational trauma.  Doing this is one of the collective callings of our generation of women.  We have the understanding,  the methods and resources, the skills and the spiritual power, for doing so.  In future posts, I'll be sharing more with you, about the Heroine's Journey for healing the Mother Wound for yourself, how to be instrumental in healing the Mother Wound with your children, and changing the legacy for your entire Mother line.

The season of Spring, which begins with Spring Equinox, is a beautifully abundant season of profound and lavish renewal and rebirth.  The renewal of the Earth is a living witness all around us of the potential for renewal and rebirth that is within us, and within our relationships. 

If this resonates for you and you think you may have experienced the Mother Wound, this is the year that healing your heart and relationships of it can open for you.  Joy and love, security and peace, confidence and freedom unlike any you have ever experienced before, are the result, as abundant as the Earth's renewal at Springtime.

Learn more, including the inspirational story of the deepening of two women's Mother Wound healing journey, with this first post in a series.

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2023 - The Year of Healing Your Mother Wound and Freeing Your Inner Child to Flourish

2023 is fresh with potential for healing your inner child and mother wound on a deep level.

Discover the heavenly energies that support us in 2023 for engaging in this deep inner work of healing your inner child, that will transform your life, your marriage and your family relationships forever, and empower you to change the legacy of your family line, when you receive this gift and use it well.

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The Second Secret to Healing Trauma Deeply

There are seasons upon seasons in our lives. Just as there is a season when it’s time to heed the insistent calling of our Souls, there are also seasons that are optimally prepared to support us in moving forward with the deep healing of trauma we need, to be freed to transform our lives and marriages, and fulfill our Soul’s callings.

Shadow Season is such a time.

In this post I share with you how to receive the gift that Shadow Season offers, so you can heal trauma and the Patriarchy Core Wound™ and move forward on your Soul’s journey with freedom and the most ease.

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Walking with the Goddess of the Land

Have you ever felt driven to go to a sacred place, and once there, had open a sacred experience? I have had several throughout my life. This is my story of being called to go to the Smoky Mountains of Tennessee, experiencing the sacredness of place in a deepened and expanded way, and finding what Sharon Blackie, the English Irish Jungian psychologist, mythologist and author terms “the goddess of the land”. It’s the story of how I learned to presence and embody even more completely, my own Sovereign Feminine Soul.

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From the Mainstream into the Light of Energy Therapy: Discovering Rapid Eye Technology

Seventeen years ago this fall, I discovered Energy Therapy through a client I had at the time. He came for an appointment and told me he was going away for a weekend for "Rapid Eye something". The more he talked about it, the more strongly I felt urged that this was something new that I needed to learn more about. Shortly after that, I found Rapid Eye Technology, and felt immediately the confirmation that this resource was something I had been looking for, for some time.

Why would I, a conventionally trained Marriage and Family Therapist, feel prompted and drawn to expand beyond the mainstream model of therapy? What was missing in the forward-thinking, newer mainstream approach I was using? Why was I frankly bored and burned out from working in that approach, and why had I lost the joy and passion for my work, that I felt when I began my training?

And most importantly, what was it that my clients even then, were more deeply hungering for? And how could I help them fulfill their deepest Desires ?

Searching for the answers to these questions, resolving and healing the aridity of Soul I felt professionally then, were what prompted me to cross the thresh-hold of my own Heroine's Journey into Energy Therapy.

When I did, I knew I was on the path home.

I wrote this article shortly after I had been credentialed as a Master Practitioner of Rapid Eye Technology. I still feel today, the same excitement, enthusiasm and passion for Rapid Eye and Energy Therapy, that I felt then. I love what I do, because I feel so passionately that deep healing, transformation and Soul growth are such fundamental birthrights and purposes for this life, and that is exactly what Energy Therapy opens for clients. This is exactly what the Soul hunger is that women crave, now more than ever:

To thrive and flourish, and live with soul-satisfying joy and love everyday. To fulfill our greatest potential. and DO the work we promised we would do in this life, that our hearts hunger for, and our Souls won't let us forget. Becoming the Heroines we are born to be.

Getting to the point of living your life this way, is the Heroine's Journey. Energy Therapy is a really crucial piece of the "how" that I was guided to, to facilitate it. Learning how to facilitate this level and degree of healing, growth and transformation was a Soul hunger I could not ignore, shut down or forget. It drove me for years. I was obsessed in my search, until I found and mastered the Energy Therapy resources that I now use.

And it all began with discovering Rapid Eye Technology. So you could say that this article is my origin story. I feel so much gratitude every day that I am called and privileged to be part of this.

Enjoy!

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Covid-19 and Unhealed Trauma: How to Feel Safer, More in Control and Protected During This (or Any Other) Crisis

Covid-19 brought a blanket of fear and often anxiety for people all over the world, and you may still be feeling it. You may feel unsafe, out of control, and don’t know how to protect yourself or your family. You may feel worried about your employment, your investments and 401K retirement savings. Conflicting information seems common and definitive answers seem elusive. You may be checking social media more than usual, finding yourself on hyper-alert, feeling as if you are waiting for the other shoe to drop.

And worst of all, you may have an underlying feeling that this experience of the covid-19 pandemic feels all too familiar. You may feel like you’ve been taken back to another place and time, reliving another crisis. If this is so for you, then you are likely experiencing unresolved trauma from your past being triggered by the covid-19 pandemic. Why? Because traumatic emotions and memories are stored in layers according to themes on your neural pathways. If you find yourself remembering intrusive, painful memories and feelings from the past, adding to your stress and fear during the covid-19 pandemic, this is why.

In this post, I will share with you how the stress and fears brought on by covid-19 may be affecting your emotional well-being, your relationships and relationship losses, how it may be affecting you if you live alone, and research-backed, practical, easy Energy Psychology and other Self-care practices you can use right away to help yourself and your family feel safer, more protected and more in control.

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